This is just your reminder that we don’t have to always have it together. We are all human, and sometimes life throws us curveballs that we aren’t always prepared for and that is okay. To top it off, it always feels as though when something goes wrong, everything else seems to come crashing down around it.
I guarantee that even the person you look up to the most, doesn’t have their shit together 100% of the time, and it’s important that we recognise that. Someone recently said to me “I don’t know how you do it all”, and I simply let her know that sometimes I really don’t. We live in a world where it feels as though we are conditioned to hide our pain and suffering as if it is a weakness. But I think it shows strength to admit when we are suffering and when we need help.
Last week I just about hit a breaking point. I was really struggling with trying to juggle all of my responsibilities and I felt like I was barely holding it together.
Anyone close to me will know how much of a positive, happy person I am; I can just about find the good in every situation. But I could feel my mood shifting and it was a real effort for me to be as positive as I usually am. I felt very overwhelmed with daily tasks, and things I could normally handle where increasing my stress levels dramatically.
In the last 10 days, on three separate occasions, I’ve broken down in tears. Each situation over three different things, but the underlying reason every time was that I was stressed, exhausted, and wearing myself out. This is very out of the norm for me and I knew I was feeling exhausted, but I thought I would be okay to keep pushing on.
I kept reminding myself that there is a lot of other people in a similar situation, with some even juggling more than me. But you can’t compare yourself to others because everyone has their own level of what they can handle at a given moment, and comparing yourself is not going to do you any good.
I say this all the time, but it always comes back to listening to your body and mind. You have to know when it’s important to rest, and when you’re okay to keep going. I kept pushing myself to keep going because ‘I didn’t have time to rest’, but pushing my body to its limits was only going to set me back in the long run.
I took a mental health day, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I took the time to look after my mind, and it was exactly what I needed. You can fuel your body with healthy nutritious food, you can exercise every day, but if you are constantly stressed out, unhappy and moody, this is ultimately going to inhibit your progress.
It’s not about how many times you fall down that counts; but how many times you get back up.
And asking for help on the way up doesn’t make you any less strong. It doesn’t make you any less independent. It makes you human. Our bodies will only take us so far, and reaching your physical goals will only give you so much happiness. But for the best quality of life, it’s always going to be about finding the balance between nourishing your body, mind, and soul.
Find what works for you, but a few things that helped me overcome this exhaustion was not setting an alarm for one day, going for a long outdoor walk, listening to podcasts/music, talking it out with friends, exercising, finding what I was grateful for each day, saying how I was feeling, accepting that I couldn’t do it all (bye housework) and being okay with not being okay 100% of the time.
Let me know in the comments below, what do you do to overcome stress?